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Aug 06, 2017

#5 - How To Make Peace With Your Parents (and Kids)

Passage: Exodus 20:12

Preacher: Pastor Tim W. Young

Series: Ten Commandments - Ten Steps to the Good Life

Category: Exodus

Summary:

Main Text - Exodus 20:12; OT Readings - WLC, 123, 124, 125, 126, 127, 128, 129, 130, 131, 132, 133; NT Reading - John 3:16, 1 John 1:9-2:1; Gathering Hymn- Praise Him! Praise Him! (NTH #173); Opening Hymns - Jesus! What a Friend for Sinners (NTH 498); Medley - Man of Sorrows!, What a Name (NTH #246), O to See the Dawn (Power of the Cross); Closing Hymn - My People, Give Ear, Attend To My Word (NTH #366). Note: NTH = New Trinity Hymnal

Detail:

Ten Steps to the Good Life

#5 – How to Make Peace with Your Parents (And Kids)

 

 Exodus 20:12  “Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the LORD your God is giving you.

 

You Will Be Blest By God If You…

 

  1. You Have a Place In God’s………

 

  1. God has all power and authority and chooses to…

               Mat. 28:18

               Rom 13:1

               Exodus 20:12

 

  1. You have been placed in positions of…..

               As a Superior

               As an inferior  

 

  1. God’s Blessing Upon You Is Tied to Your……………

 

  1. There is a promise

               Eph 6:3-4

               An example – Daniel 12:13

 

  1. there is also a curse in the promise

                 Deut 21:18-21 -

               An example   – 1 Sam 2:34 & 4:11

 

  1. Your Acceptance of Your Place In God’s Chain of Command Is Seen in………..

 

  Five ways to honor your superiors:

 

  1. Obey…                                                                                                   Eph 4:1

 

  1. Submit…                                               1 Sam 2:22-25

 

  1. Ask…                      Ex 18:17  or 1 Kings 12:1-16

 

  1. Care for and Comfort…               Mat 15:4-6    1 Tim 5:4-8

 

  1. Respect…                                               Ex 20:12  

 

  1. Now a word to all you Superiors

 

               Ephesians 6:4  4  

               Ephesians 6:5-9   

               Colossians 3:21-25    

               Colossians 4:1    

 

Westminster Larger Catechism

 

http://www.paullytle.com/WLC/index.html    with Scripture Proofs from the ESV

 

http://www.reformed.org/documents/wlc_w_proofs/

 

 

WLC 123, 124, 125, 126, 127, 128, 129, 130, 131, 132, 133

 123. What is the fifth commandment?

  1. The fifth commandment is, Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.1

 

  1. 124. Who are meant by father and mother in the fifth commandment?
  2. By father and mother, in the fifth commandment, are meant, not only natural parents,1 but all superiors in age2 and gifts;3 and especially such as, by God’s ordinance, are over us in place of authority, whether in family,4 church,5 or commonwealth.6

 

  1. 125. Why are superiors styled father and mother?
  2. Superiors are styled father and mother, both to teach them in all duties toward their inferiors, like natural parents, to express love and tenderness to them, according to their several relations;1 and to work inferiors to a greater willingness and cheerfulness in performing their duties to their superiors, as to their parents.2

 

  1. 126. What is the general scope of the fifth commandment?
  2. The general scope of the fifth commandment is, the performance of those duties which we mutually owe in our several relations, as inferiors, superiors, or equals.1

 

  1. 127. What is the honor that inferiors owe to their superiors?
  2. The honour which inferiors owe to their superiors is, all due reverence in heart,1 word,2 and behavior;3 prayer and thanksgiving for them;4 imitation of their virtues and graces;5 willing obedience to their lawful commands and counsels;6 due submission to their corrections;7 fidelity to,8 defence,9 and maintenance of their persons and authority, according to their several ranks, and the nature of their places;10 bearing with their infirmities, and covering them in love,11 that so they may be an honour to them and to their government.12

 

  1. 128. What are the sins of inferiors against their superiors?
  2. The sins of inferiors against their superiors are, all neglect of the duties required toward them;1 envying at,2 contempt of, and rebellion4 against, their persons5 and places,6 in their lawful counsels,7 commands, and corrections;8 cursing, mocking9 and all such refractory and scandalous carriage, as proves a shame and dishonour to them and their government.10

 

  1. 129. What is required of superiors towards their inferiors?
  2. It is required of superiors, according to that power they receive from God, and that relation wherein they stand, to love,1 pray for,2 and bless their inferiors;3 to instruct,4 counsel, and admonish them;5 countenancing,6 commending,7 and rewarding such as do well;8 and discountenancing,9 reproving, and chastising such as do ill;10 protecting,11 and providing for them all things necessary for soul12 and body:13 and by grave, wise, holy, and exemplary carriage, to procure glory to God,14 honour to themselves,15 and so to preserve that authority which God hath put upon them.16

 

  1. 130. What are the sins of superiors?
  2. The sins of superiors are, besides the neglect of the duties required of them,1 and inordinate seeking of themselves,2 their own glory,3 ease, profit, or pleasure;4 commanding things unlawful,5 or not in the power of inferiors to perform;6 counseling,7 encouraging,8 or favouring them in that which is evil;9 dissuading, discouraging, or discountenancing them in that which is good;10 correcting them unduly;11 careless exposing, or leaving them to wrong, temptation, and danger;12 provoking them to wrath;13 or any way dishonouring themselves, or lessening their authority, by an unjust, indiscreet, rigorous, or remiss behaviour.14

 

  1. 131. What are the duties of equals?
  2. The sins of equals are, besides the neglect of the duties required,1 the undervaluing of the worth,2 envying the gifts,3 grieving at the advancement of prosperity one of another;4 and usurping pre-eminence one over another.5

 

  1. 132. What are the sins of equals?
  2. The sins of equals are, besides the neglect of the duties required,1 the undervaluing of the worth,2 envying the gifts,3 grieving at the advancement of prosperity one of another;4 and usurping pre-eminence one over another.5

 

  1. 133. What is the reason annexed to the fifth commandment, the more to enforce it?
  2. The reason annexed to the fifth commandment, in these words, That thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee,1 is an express promise of long life and prosperity, as far as it shall serve for God’s glory and their own good, to all such as keep this commandment.2

 

Heidelberg Catechism Question

 

http://www.reformed.org/documents/heidelberg.html

 

http://www.ligonier.org/learn/articles/heidelberg-catechism-1563/

 

Question 104. What does God require in the fifth commandment?

Answer: That I show all honour, love and fidelity, to my father and mother, and all in authority over me, and submit myself to their good instruction and correction, with due obedience; (a) and also patiently bear with their weaknesses and infirmities, (b) since it pleases God to govern us by their hand. (c)

(a) Eph.5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. Eph.6:1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Eph.6:2 Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;) Eph.6:3 That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. Eph.6:4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Eph.6:5 Servants, be obedient to them that are your masters according to the flesh, with fear and trembling, in singleness of your heart, as unto Christ; Col.3:18 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Col.3:20 Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Col.3:21 Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. Col.3:22 Servants, obey in all things your masters according to the flesh; not with eyeservice, as menpleasers; but in singleness of heart, fearing God: Col.3:23 And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men; Col.3:24 Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ. Prov.1:8 My son, hear the instruction of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother: Prov.4:1 Hear, ye children, the instruction of a father, and attend to know understanding. Prov.15:20 A wise son maketh a glad father: but a foolish man despiseth his mother. Prov.20:20 Whoso curseth his father or his mother, his lamp shall be put out in obscure darkness. Exod.21:17 And he that curseth his father, or his mother, shall surely be put to death. Rom.13:1 Let every soul be subject unto the higher powers. For there is no power but of God: the powers that be are ordained of God. Rom.13:2 Whosoever therefore resisteth the power, resisteth the ordinance of God: and they that resist shall receive to themselves damnation. Rom.13:3 For rulers are not a terror to good works, but to the evil. Wilt thou then not be afraid of the power? do that which is good, and thou shalt have praise of the same: Rom.13:4 For he is the minister of God to thee for good. But if thou do that which is evil, be afraid; for he beareth not the sword in vain: for he is the minister of God, a revenger to execute wrath upon him that doeth evil. Rom.13:5 Wherefore ye must needs be subject, not only for wrath, but also for conscience sake. Rom.13:6 For for this cause pay ye tribute also: for they are God's ministers, attending continually upon this very thing. Rom.13:7 Render therefore to all their dues: tribute to whom tribute is due; custom to whom custom; fear to whom fear; honour to whom honour. (b) Prov.23:22 Hearken unto thy father that begat thee, and despise not thy mother when she is old. Gen.9:24 And Noah awoke from his wine, and knew what his younger son had done unto him. Gen.9:25 And he said, Cursed be Canaan; a servant of servants shall he be unto his brethren. 1 Pet.2:18 Servants, be subject to your masters with all fear; not only to the good and gentle, but also to the froward. (c) Eph.6:4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Eph.6:9 And, ye masters, do the same things unto them, forbearing threatening: knowing that your Master also is in heaven; neither is there respect of persons with him. Col.3:19 Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them. Col.3:20 Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Col.3:21 Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. Rom.13:2 Whosoever therefore resisteth the power, resisteth the ordinance of God: and they that resist shall receive to themselves damnation. Rom.13:3 For rulers are not a terror to good works, but to the evil. Wilt thou then not be afraid of the power? do that which is good, and thou shalt have praise of the same: Matt.22:21 They say unto him, Caesar's. Then saith he unto them, Render therefore unto Caesar the things which are Caesar's; and unto God the things that are God's.